Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life

Today I want to talk  to you about the different types of people that may be in your life. If you have read The Celestine Prophecy you will be aware of 4 personality types. They are:

1.The Intimidator
2. The Aloof
3.The Interrogator
4. The Poor me 

I'm sure we all know someone who is an Intimidator. They control you by being in charge and making you feel fearful. They intimidate you and are generally not nice to be around. Perhaps if you don't do what they want you may lose your job! You may be unlucky to work around this type of personality. The solution is to try and remove them from your life.

The Aloof person attracts your energy to bring attention to themselves then withdraws. How about these people that post on social media that something terrible has happened or they are at the hospital but don't say any more? They then have every one posting "How are they? What's wrong?". Of couse you are left hanging without getting an answer. You might also ask how their day was and the only response you get from them is "Fine".

The Interrogator can be similar to the Intimadator but makes you question yourself.  They are never happy with whatever actions you have taken as they would have done differently. They will say things like " Why did you do that?" They will keep asking until they get answers from you, even if it's something you don't want to talk about. You may also find they constantly criticise you, always finding fault. It is one way for them to feel better about themselves.

The Poor me was me until I recognised this after reading The Celestine Prophecy. I was in a no money, bad roof, recently become a single mum situation. I was one of those people that if 2 things had gone wrong I was waiting for the 3rd? How many people do you know that think like that? I can think of loads. A poor me just wants someone to change their situation but it is really up to them to do this, not others. Even if you are sick and in bed, you can start by reading Self help books to change your Mindset.

Once you become aware of the different types of people around you it allows you to wake up and make changes in your life. My awakening was accelerated by learning reiki and I am now a totally different person to what I was all those years ago. Don't let people take charge of your lives, or if you see yourself as one of these personality traits, let this be a wake up call. We CAN all change our lives.

Joy Fraser
UK Reiki Federation Usui Reiki Master / Teacher
www.peaceharmonyandjoy.co.uk
https://www.facebook.com/peaceharmonyandjoy

Teaching Children Meditation and How to be Confident

This week I had a special visitor. Up till 5 years ago I hosted Foreign Language students in my home. One of my students from 9 years ago was visiting Edinburgh this week and dropped in to see me. He was someone I always remembered, as when he arrived he brought me a purple scarf and on leaving he bought me The Reiki Bible with lovely words from him inscribed inside. He was a teacher and I always thought his students were so lucky to have him. While he was staying with me, he kept buying books and eventually sent 2 very large boxes full back to Spain. All purchased with his own money. Roll on 9 years and he is now the Deputy Head teacher of his school. He also told me they have introduced Mindfulness for his students from age 3 onwards. Like me, he believes if you teach them early it will set them up for life.

He is also aware that children learn more from interactive actions rather than sitting learning only from books. We discussed that children pick up languages much faster when they are younger. Each year his school brings in a teacher from another country to work with the children so they are constantly learning new languages. I only wish we had longer together as I loved hearing about how his school was being run. I truly believe that if children can learn ways to support themselves that they will grow up to be more confident adults.

I have trained my Grandchildren in reiki and can see the difference it has made to their families lives. I only wish I had learned earlier as I think my life would have turned out differently. Hopefully I would have got to where I am now but in a much easier way! My Grandchildren also love meditations that I put together for them. We have to remember that as well as all the learning they do as they are growing, they also need ways to escape too. This may mean having their heads stuck in a book, meditating or doing something they love. The most important thing is to help them enjoy their childhood as well as helping them learn for the future, but in the right way. All schools should take a lesson from how Juan's school is run. I think Meditation should be taught in all schools. It helps with all the stresses and strains of modern day life. If you are interested in teaching meditation to your own children or your school children I would highly recommend Calm Kids by Lorraine Murray.

If you would be interested in me making a personal guided Meditation for your child, or as a present for another, you can get in touch with me either through Facebook  or my website. 




Joy Fraser
UK Reiki Federation Master / Teacher
www.peaceharmonyandjoy.co.uk