Sometimes when we put ourselves under pressure to do or not do a specific thing, all that happens is we feel weak and that we have let ourselves down, when something stops us taking the action. Instead, if your aim was to lose weight for instance, you may find doing things on the spur of the moment and being happy will do one of two things. It will either stop you worrying about your weight because you are out and about enjoying yourself and having fun, or because you are out rather than sitting at home binge eating, the weight will come off.
As we get closer to the end of the year, learn to live in the moment and accept invitations that come your way. We only have one life so enjoy it rather than worrying about changing yourself. The trees, live and shed automatically, just as you do. The only difference is everyone can see this. With yourself, only you need to be aware of the internal changes that come from being happy. One point to take from the trees is they change throughout the year and bend with the wind. Change is good -so don't stay stuck in one state. Embrace any opportunities that arise and enjoy life.
Here is a good song to listen to Living in the moment.
Usui reiki Master / Teacher