Living In The Moment

Today I was walking beside work and saw brown leaves falling from the trees. These are the first I have seen that shows that Autumn is on it's way. We are almost three quarters of the way through 2018 and for most of us it has gone quickly. This year I decided not to have any New Year Resolutions. I often find we break them quite quickly anyway. I decided instead that I would take the year as it came and enjoy doing what I do. Now you may think that is not good enough, but so many opportunities came my way and I feel that I have done more this year than in previous years.

Sometimes when we put ourselves under pressure to do or not do a specific thing, all that happens is we feel weak and that we have let ourselves down, when something stops us taking the action. Instead, if your aim was to lose weight for instance, you may find doing things on the spur of the moment and being happy will do one of two things. It will either stop you worrying about your weight because you are out and about enjoying yourself and having fun, or because you are out rather than sitting at home binge eating, the weight will come off.

As we get closer to the end of the year, learn to live in the moment and accept invitations that come your way. We only have one life so enjoy it rather than worrying about changing yourself.  The trees, live and shed automatically, just as you do. The only difference is everyone can see this. With yourself, only you need to be aware of the internal changes that come from being happy. One point to take from the trees is they change throughout the year and bend with the wind. Change is good -so don't stay stuck in one state. Embrace any opportunities that arise and enjoy life.

Here is a good song to listen to Living in the moment.


Joy Fraser
www.peaceharmonyandjoy.co.uk
Usui reiki Master / Teacher
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Beautiful Colours, Beautiful Thoughts

What are you grateful for today? I  love the fact that the garden is full of colour. Looking out my front window I can see trees and hedges with different colours of green. In the  side garden I have orange Crocosmia, pink Roses, yellow Polyanthus, purple Lavender, pink / red Honeysuckle. I also have bushes that have flowered and now have the green leaves on them, and that's just in my side garden!

Inside my house I have trailing plants that are great for putting out Oxygen as well as good to look at.  If I look out my back garden then I am grateful to see all the plants that a neighbour planted for me including a fir tree that I love.

I have barely left my home in the last few weeks due to hurting my back but I think as long as you are surrounded by colour it can make life more interesting. Sometimes you may not be able to do all that you want but it makes me happy if I can appreciate things around me.  Even if you don't have a garden, plants in the home are good for your health so why not grow a few more. My only problem just now is all the emails I'm getting from a plant company, but know I cannot do any planting just now. Never mind, there's always next year!

I often hear from people that I am a positive person.  You can be too. It all starts with a thought and for me, reiki too. Remember that how you think will change how you feel!






Joy Fraser
Usui reiki Master / teacher
www.peaceharmonyandjoy.co.uk
https://www.facebook.com/peaceharmonyandjoy

Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life

Today I want to talk  to you about the different types of people that may be in your life. If you have read The Celestine Prophecy you will be aware of 4 personality types. They are:

1.The Intimidator
2. The Aloof
3.The Interrogator
4. The Poor me 

I'm sure we all know someone who is an Intimidator. They control you by being in charge and making you feel fearful. They intimidate you and are generally not nice to be around. Perhaps if you don't do what they want you may lose your job! You may be unlucky to work around this type of personality. The solution is to try and remove them from your life.

The Aloof person attracts your energy to bring attention to themselves then withdraws. How about these people that post on social media that something terrible has happened or they are at the hospital but don't say any more? They then have every one posting "How are they? What's wrong?". Of couse you are left hanging without getting an answer. You might also ask how their day was and the only response you get from them is "Fine".

The Interrogator can be similar to the Intimadator but makes you question yourself.  They are never happy with whatever actions you have taken as they would have done differently. They will say things like " Why did you do that?" They will keep asking until they get answers from you, even if it's something you don't want to talk about. You may also find they constantly criticise you, always finding fault. It is one way for them to feel better about themselves.

The Poor me was me until I recognised this after reading The Celestine Prophecy. I was in a no money, bad roof, recently become a single mum situation. I was one of those people that if 2 things had gone wrong I was waiting for the 3rd? How many people do you know that think like that? I can think of loads. A poor me just wants someone to change their situation but it is really up to them to do this, not others. Even if you are sick and in bed, you can start by reading Self help books to change your Mindset.

Once you become aware of the different types of people around you it allows you to wake up and make changes in your life. My awakening was accelerated by learning reiki and I am now a totally different person to what I was all those years ago. Don't let people take charge of your lives, or if you see yourself as one of these personality traits, let this be a wake up call. We CAN all change our lives.

Joy Fraser
UK Reiki Federation Usui Reiki Master / Teacher
www.peaceharmonyandjoy.co.uk
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Teaching Children Meditation and How to be Confident

This week I had a special visitor. Up till 5 years ago I hosted Foreign Language students in my home. One of my students from 9 years ago was visiting Edinburgh this week and dropped in to see me. He was someone I always remembered, as when he arrived he brought me a purple scarf and on leaving he bought me The Reiki Bible with lovely words from him inscribed inside. He was a teacher and I always thought his students were so lucky to have him. While he was staying with me, he kept buying books and eventually sent 2 very large boxes full back to Spain. All purchased with his own money. Roll on 9 years and he is now the Deputy Head teacher of his school. He also told me they have introduced Mindfulness for his students from age 3 onwards. Like me, he believes if you teach them early it will set them up for life.

He is also aware that children learn more from interactive actions rather than sitting learning only from books. We discussed that children pick up languages much faster when they are younger. Each year his school brings in a teacher from another country to work with the children so they are constantly learning new languages. I only wish we had longer together as I loved hearing about how his school was being run. I truly believe that if children can learn ways to support themselves that they will grow up to be more confident adults.

I have trained my Grandchildren in reiki and can see the difference it has made to their families lives. I only wish I had learned earlier as I think my life would have turned out differently. Hopefully I would have got to where I am now but in a much easier way! My Grandchildren also love meditations that I put together for them. We have to remember that as well as all the learning they do as they are growing, they also need ways to escape too. This may mean having their heads stuck in a book, meditating or doing something they love. The most important thing is to help them enjoy their childhood as well as helping them learn for the future, but in the right way. All schools should take a lesson from how Juan's school is run. I think Meditation should be taught in all schools. It helps with all the stresses and strains of modern day life. If you are interested in teaching meditation to your own children or your school children I would highly recommend Calm Kids by Lorraine Murray.

If you would be interested in me making a personal guided Meditation for your child, or as a present for another, you can get in touch with me either through Facebook  or my website. 




Joy Fraser
UK Reiki Federation Master / Teacher
www.peaceharmonyandjoy.co.uk

REIKI - THE WHITE LIGHT OF CHANGE

I was just filling in a questionaire about my business. It really made me think what I was doing with it. I will explain what I mean by that. Reiki to me is my life but when I started down this journey, I remember saying to my teacher at first  that I was never going to treat another person. Instead I was doing it just for me. Of course that did not happen lol.

The next stage, when I trained to Teacher level, I again said this was just for me. I also said I would train 1 person only, which was my daughter. I remember him laughing at me as he just said "Watch this space!" So you see, I never meant to make reiki my business. For me it was a way to change my life for the better. The energy has a way of making things happen. Not only did I train my daughter, but I also trained her husband plus two of my Grandchildren! 

First after level 2 I was asked to work in a therapy shop at weekends and I found I loved working with people. Then about 9 months after teacher level training I was telling a group of people where they could train in Glasgow when a friend asked what about me? She also said the last 3 times she was out with me people started talking about reiki. Was that not a sign? I agreed to get a website built but said I would not advertise, as if it was meant to happen that I got business through it then I would.

Next a friend came to visit and built me a website. My first very own site. I was so proud of it and her for making it for me. Within the space of a week I had people requesting all stages of training! I still was not confident so agreed to go and have coffee with someone through the Free economy website. She wanted to talk about reiki and eventually asked if I would train her. No money changed hands but after that workshop, not only was she trained but I felt super confident in teaching!

The rest, as they say, is history. It became a hobby that I did for love. Gradually it became a part time business. I found I love teaching small groups of people about reiki and how it can help their lives change as it did for me. For something that I learned orginally to help myself, I am so grateful for how many others lives I have touched through the years. If you have either been trained in reiki or had a therapy session from me, I want to thank you all for being in my life. Wow. I feel so emotional now.

Thanks

Joy

Reiki Awareness week 2018

This week from Saturday  9th June is Reiki Awareness Week. Have you heard of or had a session of reiki before? What did you think of it? What is it?

Reiki is Universal Energy. One of the misconceptions about reiki is that the practitioner is using their own energy. This is not correct. In actual fact you can find giving reiki to another actually gives you more energy! This is because the energy flows through the practitioner to the recipient.

Reiki helps your mental attitude and can make you more positive in your thoughts. It can help you de - stress and also relieve pain. As I wrote on my Facebook page today it can also help people who are terminally ill to pass over more comfortable. What is there not to like about reiki?

One of the great things about reiki is once you are attuned to the energy it is with you for life. How cool is that. I even had a student that had not used it for 7 years and was surprised to find it still worked when she called upon it to help after an injury. Even better is you do not need to carry a therapy couch around with you. All you need are your hands.

Reiki is good to have in person, but for anyone that has done level 2, they can also send it over distance and time. Imagine being able to send it to a family member on the other side of the world, or to be able to go in to an interview knowing you have sent reiki in advance. You also need to have done level 2 to be a practioner and charge members of the public.

For this special week I am offering one person the chance to win either a One to One session with me in Edinburgh, or if you are further afield, a distance session. All you need do like my Facebook page then send me a message through Facebook and I will give you a number. The draw will take place next Sunday 16th June 2018.


I have a level one workshop on Sunday 26th August 2018 and a Level 2 workshop on Sat and Sun 11th and 12th August 2018. If you are interested in  taking part in either course please get in touch through my website.


Joy Fraser
www.peaceharmonyandjoy.co.uk
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Children's meditation

I put this together for my Grandchild after I made  my first one for her. She is 9. My Grandson who is 13 said the first one made him so relaxed that he would pay for it. I am taking him at his word and decided it would be lovely to make personalised meditations for other children. These can include things, places or animals that the individual child loves. If this resonates with you then please get in touch.

I think in todays world it is too easy for children to get stressed. Teaching them to Meditate and go into a quiet space can help them.
Children's meditation